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I cannot wait to be a mother-in-law, and my kids don’t even date yet. I’m already thinking about it, dreaming about the day my children come home and tell me they are getting married and our family expands. I am already planning how I’ll react and what I will do to include these new members into our family. I’ve been playing out these scenarios since my kids were born, praying for their spouses because we don’t know who they will be but God surely does. I’ve done all I can to already be invested in the lives of my yet-to-be-discovered in-law children and their first nuclear family groups.
The sum total of my mother-in-law preparedness training is not based on doing everything exactly the opposite from my own experiences. However, I did learn how horrible it feels to be excluded, to be undermined, to be made to feel guilty for loving who I love. My mother-in-law has taught me many many ways to not do it. I am not a perfect daughter-in-law. And I will not be a perfect mother-in-law. But I am going to try my hardest to be a good one. If you’re reading this, knowing that one day, your beloved littles will be someone’s son or daughter-in-law, rest easy, that some of us have been praying and waiting for them to walk in that door for years. And we cannot wait to love on them as they become one of our own.
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